Menu

 Authors
A B C D E F
G H I J K L
M N O P Q R
S T U V W S
Y Z
Get Socialize
My Account
Make Free Wallpaper

"31 Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Quotes & Sayings

      Nigerian     /    
Born: 15 September 1977 | Writer |

I own things I like, but nothing inanimate that I treasure in a deeply consuming way.

Things Own Like Inanimate
  Favorite Make wallpaper

If you don’t understand, ask questions. If you’re uncomfortable about asking questions, say you are uncomfortable about asking questions and then ask anyway.

Understand Question About Anyway
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Show a people as one thing, only one thing, over and over again, and that is what they become.

Become Show People Only
  Favorite Make wallpaper

I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change.

Angry Anger Change History
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.

Interest Type Worried Exactly
  Favorite Make wallpaper
There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable.
Forgivable Easily Some Make
  Favorite Make wallpaper
Culture does not make people. People make culture.
Culture People Make Not
  Favorite Make wallpaper

The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.

Problem Gender Weight Individual
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Masculinity is a hard, small cage, and we put boys inside this cage.

Cage Small Inside Hard
  Favorite Make wallpaper
First we need to calm down, breathe, and get over ourselves.
Over First Calm Breathe
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Lasting love has to be built on mutual regard and respect. It is about seeing the other person.

Person Love Built Respect
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Many stories matter. Stories have been used to dispossess and to malign. But stories can also be used to empower, and to humanize. Stories can break the dignity of a people. But stories can also repair that broken dignity.

Dignity Break Matter Empower
  Favorite Make wallpaper

This was love: a string of coincidences that gathered significance and became miracles.

Love String Significance Miracle
  Favorite Make wallpaper

I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.

Deserve Chosen Longer Want
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Race doesn't really exist for you because it has never been a barrier. Black folks don't have that choice.

Race Never Exist Choice
  Favorite Make wallpaper

A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man, after a certain age isn’t married, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick.

Pick Around Come Age
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.

Teach Criticize Problem Have
  Favorite Make wallpaper

My own definition is a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better. All of us, women and men, must do better.

Own Better Gender Definition
  Favorite Make wallpaper

We teach girls shame. “Close your legs. Cover yourself.” We make them feel as though being born female they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up — and this is the worst thing we do to girls — they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.

Teach Close Cover Feel
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop.

Matter Equally Stop Premise
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.

Around Often Power Felt
  Favorite Make wallpaper
She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself.
Head Felt First Feel
  Favorite Make wallpaper

The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina.

Cooking Come Knowledge Not
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Teach her that the idea of 'gender roles' is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl. 'Because you are a girl' is never reason for anything. Ever.

Teach Idea Role Gender
  Favorite Make wallpaper

We did that often, asking each other questions whose answers we already knew. Perhaps it was so that we would not ask the other questions, the ones whose answers we did not want to know.

Often Each Answer Question
  Favorite Make wallpaper
I often make the mistake of thinking that something that is obvious to me is just as obvious to everyone else.
Mistake Often Obvious Else
  Favorite Make wallpaper

I am trying to unlearn many lessons of gender I internalized while growing up. But I sometimes still feel vulnerable in the face of gender expectations.

Lesson Unlearn Trying Vulnerable
  Favorite Make wallpaper

A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: We must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently.

World Start Raise Differently
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person.

Power Tell Story Ability
  Favorite Make wallpaper
Because when there is true equality, resentment does not exist.
True Exist Equality Because
  Favorite Make wallpaper

But by far the worst thing we do to males—by making them feel they have to be hard—is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.

Ego Fragile Harder Feel
  Favorite Make wallpaper

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Quotes & Sayings