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"35 Albert Ellis Quotes & Sayings

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Born: 27 September 1913. Died: 24 July 2007 | Psychologist |

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

Best years Your life You decide Your problems
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There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well . And the world must be easy.

Three must Hold us Back Do well
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People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.

People Things Upset us By believing
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Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live.

Reality What happens We think Events
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You mainly feel the way you think.

You mainly Feel The way Think
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When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.

People change Irrational belief Flexible preferences Less disturbed
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By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.

Honestly acknowledging Past errors Never damning Can learn
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Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.

Even injustice Good point Challenge Happy
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The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.

Best year Your life You decide Your problems
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If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one's feelings by controlling one's thoughts

Human emotions Result Thinking Appreciably control
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Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.

Whatever May be Still largely The creator
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The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.

The attitude Unconditional Self-acceptance Important variable
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The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations.

Great majority Things Panicked Self created
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The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

Art Love Persistence
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Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor.

Happiness Experienced Striving towards Goal
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Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.

When people Act nastily Condemn them Retaliate
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You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

Largely constructed Depression You can Deconstruct it
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Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

Acceptance Love Person Lovable traits
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In fact most of what we call anxiety is over concern about what someone thinks of you.

Call anxiety Over concern Someone thinks You
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Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

Self-esteem Greatest sickness Man Woman
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Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.

Failure Have anything Intrinsic value Person
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Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others

Being assertive Mean attacking Ignoring others Feelings
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Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.

Convince yourself Worrying about Situations Them worse
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Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.

Most people Given up Faced Criticism
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Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Rational beliefs Closer Getting Good results
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The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.

More sinful Guilty Person Feel
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Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.

Worrying About dying Help you Alive
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We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.

Can't change The past How people Thinking
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Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
Eating Decision Nobody forces Your hands
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Much of what we call emotion is nothing more or less than a certain kind - a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind - of thought.

Call emotion Certain kind Biased prejudiced Strongly evaluative
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People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware

People Have motives Thoughts Are unaware
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Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.

You avoid Alarming situations Increase Your anxiety
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People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.

People Get insights Bothering them Change
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You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.

You have Exist Live Your life
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Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect.
Most things Worth having Some sacrifices You expect
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Albert Ellis Quotes & Sayings